About Me


Hi, I'm Pam. I'm in my thirties, Jewish, and a huge proponent of the Oxford comma. An early version of this blog focused on online dating, but somehow after 8 years of failed online dating, I met my life partner in, like, real life.

I use writing as a way to organize my thoughts and figure out the world. I'm on a journey to becoming a better human, citizen, ally, and advocate. Here I share my musings, funny stories, stream-of-consciousness, and serious analysis of the world around me. Also, I love puns.

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